Thanks for this Rachael! I’ve heard pieces of these messages from Liz in various forums but it was interesting to hear how she packaged it all in a dedicated weekend. It can seem easy to just say, ‘I don’t care’ - like that’s the solution. But I suppose what might be more relevant is ‘why do I care?’ If we unpack that a bit then we can decide whether we want to continue caring or not!
Yes very likely! And then we could ask ourselves, am I caring more about them than myself? Might just dislodge a bit more space to choose what actually feels best in that situation ❤️
Love what you wrote about the weekend course you did Rachel! Love Big Magic - and Elizabeth Gilbert’s writing - she’s so eclectic! I apply the Big Magic principles to my art. Love Gandhi’s quote too - I’d go further to say I don’t want people trampling through my brain without permission! And yes!! So True about not caring - if we think of care as meaning we attach importance to something, then it’s easier to knock back the requests (cover quotes!!) and basically “not care” - people can ask all they want - doesn’t mean we should answer!! Thanks again! 💕
Aw I love that you apply Big Magic prinicples to your art. It's such an amazing book. And I also like your addition to Gandhi's quote. Yes, the not having to reply to everything has been liberating even after only a week. x
Really loved your letter from the office of the principal - after a shock diagnosis June 2024 - this is exactly what I needed to read and some of which to apply to my life going forward
What fabulous takeaways! I saw her for one hour and that felt incredible so I can only imagine how much you would have gained. I love these permissions you have now given yourself
Rach I read this smiling the whole way through! Love all this. Thank you for sharing. (And I know you have a fabulous author support network, but if you're ever feeling wobbly before or after saying 'no' to something, drop me a message and I'll cheer you on! It can be hard to do but I promise you it's worth it - it makes the heart-felt YES infinitely magical!) xx
Thanks Rachael for sharing your experience at the workshop by Elizabeth Gilbert. Sounds like you had a wonderful day. There were times in my life I would have liked to write a letter to the most difficult people in my life, but now the necessity doesn’t arise as they have left the world. When an individual is in a family set up, it’s so difficult to put our needs first . The phrase ‘I don’t care’ it sounds a little negative for few situations. Overwhelming is no solution to anything. When I used to compare myself to others, it depressed me but then I learnt to let go.
Thanks for this Rachael! I’ve heard pieces of these messages from Liz in various forums but it was interesting to hear how she packaged it all in a dedicated weekend. It can seem easy to just say, ‘I don’t care’ - like that’s the solution. But I suppose what might be more relevant is ‘why do I care?’ If we unpack that a bit then we can decide whether we want to continue caring or not!
I LOVE that. Why do we care! I'm going to consider that from now on. Thank you! x
Ooh I love that too! And I suspect it will usually come down to a fear of what other people might think! xx
I think you’re right!
Yes very likely! And then we could ask ourselves, am I caring more about them than myself? Might just dislodge a bit more space to choose what actually feels best in that situation ❤️
Love what you wrote about the weekend course you did Rachel! Love Big Magic - and Elizabeth Gilbert’s writing - she’s so eclectic! I apply the Big Magic principles to my art. Love Gandhi’s quote too - I’d go further to say I don’t want people trampling through my brain without permission! And yes!! So True about not caring - if we think of care as meaning we attach importance to something, then it’s easier to knock back the requests (cover quotes!!) and basically “not care” - people can ask all they want - doesn’t mean we should answer!! Thanks again! 💕
Aw I love that you apply Big Magic prinicples to your art. It's such an amazing book. And I also like your addition to Gandhi's quote. Yes, the not having to reply to everything has been liberating even after only a week. x
Really loved your letter from the office of the principal - after a shock diagnosis June 2024 - this is exactly what I needed to read and some of which to apply to my life going forward
Sorry to hear about your diagnosis but you should DEFINITELY write your own letter! x
Thanks Rach - it sucks but it is what it is :) writing my own letter sounds like an awesome idea!
This sounds fascinating and really appreciate you taking the time to share all this! Love lots of the lessons here - all salient reminders ❤️❤️
It was certainly an interesting weekend, causing us to think hard about a lot of things. x
Thanks so much for sharing this peek into the weekend Rachael. It does sound magical. Now kicking myself for not going!
It was interesting indeed! x
What fabulous takeaways! I saw her for one hour and that felt incredible so I can only imagine how much you would have gained. I love these permissions you have now given yourself
Anytime with Liz is inspiring I think :) And yes, I probably should print the permissions out so I remember! x
Rach, I love that letter! I’m going to write one for myself. Thanks for the inspiration x
Oh I'm so glad! x
Rach I read this smiling the whole way through! Love all this. Thank you for sharing. (And I know you have a fabulous author support network, but if you're ever feeling wobbly before or after saying 'no' to something, drop me a message and I'll cheer you on! It can be hard to do but I promise you it's worth it - it makes the heart-felt YES infinitely magical!) xx
Aw thanks Kim - I really appreciate that - and the same goes to you. ALWAYS here for you. x
Thank you for sharing, Rach! Just what I needed to read on a Monday morning. So much to ponder in all this.
Oh you're welcome! Thanks for reading. x
Thanks Rachael for sharing your experience at the workshop by Elizabeth Gilbert. Sounds like you had a wonderful day. There were times in my life I would have liked to write a letter to the most difficult people in my life, but now the necessity doesn’t arise as they have left the world. When an individual is in a family set up, it’s so difficult to put our needs first . The phrase ‘I don’t care’ it sounds a little negative for few situations. Overwhelming is no solution to anything. When I used to compare myself to others, it depressed me but then I learnt to let go.
I'm glad you're no longer in the situations where you need to write that letter. And yes, no good ever comes from comparing ourselves. x